In Which Sephiroth1Ripley8 and I Discuss…Stuff.
Heh, this is fun. Just remember, anything I respond to will be because I disagree. By default anything I don’t talk about I agree with.
You can check out what Sephiroth1Ripley8 wrote in the guestbook.
Seph1Rip8: About the changes in life for changes of beliefs, I can mostly get behind that, but I think it's time for people to realize that children are happier with a FAMILY. They don't need it for survival, and single/alternative lifestyle parent homes are alright, but I think we need more emphasis on trying to get these kids into situations with a mom and a dad. I'm just saying it'd be BEST for the child.
Lyra: Personally, I’m slightly divided on that, though for the most part I agree with you. I adore my family and definitely wouldn’t want only one parent, but I tend to feel that overall it’s more society’s fault for the way single-parent families are viewed and how these families feel about themselves. For one thing, I vaguely remember reading an article somewhere about how boys raised by a single mother grow up to be far more respectful of women. This isn’t hard to imagine; it makes perfect sense. So I suppose what I’m saying is that, yes, in an ideal situation, 2 parents would be best. But everything would be better in the ideal. And all problems originate from the fact the few, if any of us can truly BE ideal.
Seph1Rip8: As far as condoms...well, I went to catholic junior high a.k.a. where you get sex education. I picked up most of what I know just around. I don't know a damn thing about birth control except that there's a) a latex thing that will obviously physically separate you from any harm and b) a pill that is...how effective? I have no clue. And it doesn't protect against STD's. I'm keeping my legs shut until I get around some virgin boys, definitely. And even then I'm getting him tested...It's safer just to fantasize about Sephiroth.
Lyra: LMAO! Smart girl. The pill is about 97%+ effective and yes, it does not protect against STDs. Oh, I and about those “latex things” ^_^, you should read up on how to put them on properly or else they’re likely to break and that would suck a lot.
Oh yes, on this subject, I must add this: *ahem* Masturbation is 100% guaranteed not to get you pregnant or get you infected. And, while I’m advocating all that the church tells you is wrong and dirty, I might as well go all the way. Discover your body dammit (I’m not talking to Seph1Rip8 here, I’m talking to anyone who happens to be reading this). Not only is it good for the self-esteem, it gets you more comfortable with your own body, and it feels great. There are thousands upon thousands of women out there who think their sexual parts are ugly and something to be hidden in shame. This is entirely untrue and needs to be fixed. Stop using douches! They are so bad for you and so utterly useless. To quote my sex-ed teacher, “Get a mirror down there and check it out!” When she said that, the entire class, including myself, looked at her as if she was crazy. But hey, we all grow up some time. Girls, you should know where your clitoris is. You have no idea how much it makes me cry when a girl doesn’t know what/where it is. Explore!
Eee, I hope I don’t scare off half the “innocent” readers…Then again…how many of my readers are innocent anyways, hmm? ^_~
Lyra’s uber-christian friends: *cries*
Seph1Rip8: I'm just going for a kind
of middle way...If you really feel like having sex, okay. What the hell do I
care. But we shouldn't be encouraging it, because let's face it, bad things DO
happen. STD's and pregnancy are definitely avoidable, but not completely. And
some people are just stupid and they don't do stuff properly and they're not
responsible with their rights to do things.
Lyra: Yeah, my sympathy for stupid people who get into stupid situations when they should be fully informed is quite low. However, this brings up another sexual psychology thing I read about recently in Nancy Friday’s “Women on Top,” that’s too intriguing not to talk about. There’s this thing dubbed the “Swept Away Phenomenon” where a frighteningly large number of women fall prey to it all the time. I’m sure you’ve heard of it: “I wanted to be swept away.” *Goes to grab book*
It originates from sexual guilt, once again, drilled into our brains since childhood. A woman, independent, pays her own bills etc, says to her doctor when he asks her why she didn’t use birth control, “I just couldn’t. I didn’t want to get up and walk into that cold bathroom and spoil the moment. I wanted to be swept away” (Friday, 47). Sound eerily familiar? It does for me, even though I’ve never done anything of the sort. Maybe that’s because I’m a historical romance novel junkie and you certainly never see the lord and lady break apart so that he can slip on a condom or so she can slip in a diaphragm. But even more, a year or so ago one of my friends told me about her experiences with her boyfriend at the time and how the first *3* times they had sex they didn’t use birth control. Wtf? She’s a smart girl, deemed gifted by IQ tests, and yet here she was, saying that not only had she not used birth control once, but 3 times. And as a result she spent a good few months in hell wondering if she was pregnant.
WHY do women do this??? Well it’s complicated and I don’t understand this phenomenon well enough, but stats show that it’s still alive and well among our population. It’s got to do with many subconscious things, and subconsciously, guilt can make us behave strangely.
So all I can say is, keep this in mind, anyone who’s reading this. And don’t automatically think you’re immune so please be carefully and do not fall into the Swept Away category.
Seph1Rip8: As far as human ability
to be chaste, it's true, humans are strange creatures when it comes to the
mating part of the brain. There are actually different instincts for short term
mating partners and long term mating partners.
Lyra: Yeah, the wonderous problem of “the best nurturers are probably not the best producers” and vice versa. You can have this wonderful example of the male species in anything genetic, (strong, handsome, smart, healthy) and he could be the last thing you want as your counterpart to actually raise the children. Which is why I say we reinstate polygamy, except in the opposite way, that way you can have a great biological daddy and a great he-raised-me daddy and I can have more husbands. ^________^ (I am joking, just to let anyone who fails to catch on, you know, know)
Seph1Rip8: What you said about finding ways around obstacles of forbiddenness...this isn't just about a sex thing though. Humans have another natural instinct to try and defy all rules. Retribution is the only thing that keeps many people in line. Even down to something innocent...we have gravity on earth. There is no gravity on the moon.
Lyra: Actually, yeah there is gravity on the moon…It’s just 1/6 the magnitude of Earth’s.
Seph1Rip8: There is something about wanting to get up to the moon, just to bounce around and look at nature and say HA! I BEAT YOU! I CAN DO THIS ANYWAY EVEN THOUGH I SHOULDN'T BE ABLE TO! Then karma/God/nature kicks in and a small rock punctures your space suit and you explode because even though you're beating the laws of gravity, you're having to defy a lot of other laws including oxygen and air pressure.
Lyra: But bouncing around IS perfectly natural and in accordance with the laws of gravity, because the laws state that on the moon, you are much lighter. For that matter floating around in space is also natural, and this is where “no gravity” actually comes in. However, exploding, likewise, is also natural in space…I have no idea WHERE I’m going with this.
Seph1Rip8: Excuse that last part, that type of retribution of karma/nature/God doesn't always happen, but I needed to calm myself down with the image of somebody exploding. Mm. Anyway, I'm done ranting for now, sorry if I take up a whole bunch of space. Hope ya respond!
Lyra: Lol, not a problem. Always a pleasure.
PS: Feel free to contact me privately if you want to discuss any of this potentially personal stuff at lady_sanzennine [at] hotmail [dot] com.
~Lyra Sanzennine~